I know, i'm soo not supposed to talk about this! o0o0o0...what a scary/ embarrassing/ degrading/humiliating/no-no topic! Well, i'm talking about it because you're not. So, here are my thoughts on the holy grail of emotions. The epitome of relationships and the death of conservative-ness. Consider this your elbow pads and helmet before plunging into the insatiable world of sex. I don't claim to have any sort of credentials, but I am living and experiencing life. So, don't take my word for it..this is just something we can read about together and maybe learn a thing or two in the process.
Today's topic - Virginity.
I think this topic goes out to the ladies. Okay, so you're thinking about having sex for the first time and not quite sure what it's gonna be like. You've heard stories here and there like, it's gonna hurt or you're gonna bleed or you're gonna be "loose" after losing your virginity. I can assure you, it's not as bad as it sounds.
1. I seriously don't think that your virginity is something you can "lose". Therefore, i do not agree with the term "i lost my virginity". You're virginity is yours and it is not something that can be taken away or lost or stolen. Its yours for as long as you want it to be.
2. The bleeding is caused by a tear in your hymen ( a thin layer of skin surrounding the opening of the vagina). Absolutely scientific, and has nothing to do with losing your self-esteem in the process. And one can't be "loose" when you start having sex. This is a common misunderstanding. This doesn't happen until you're like 50, no matter how many times you've had sex. When you're older, the muscles around the vagina lose their "tough" ness and durability, usually comes with childbirth and aging of the body.
3. Let's say you've had sex for the first time, For God's Sake, THAT MAN DOES NOT OWN YOU! If you're smart/stupid enough to have sex with a man you're not married to, then you're smart enough to deal with the consequences should something go wrong with the relationship. Do not subject yourself to being a slave for this man should he decide to break it off, or you find out he's having an affair or some shit like that. DEAL WITH IT! You have to stand up for yourself and move on. Be strong.
4. Don't you dare, even for a second, think that you're not worth it anymore after you've had sex for the first time. This is the 21st century. Chill. Like I said, if you're smart enough to have sex before marriage, then be double smart in dealing with the consequences.
5. And please, think about it over and over again. Don't have sex because all your friends are having sex, and don't start having sex because the tv shows are saying it's oh so cool. Do it because YOU wanna do it. And do it when YOU'RE ready to do it. not when HE'S ready or when you think you love the guy so much that you're gonna die from all the love. Truth is, he might not love you just as much.
Okay people, that's all i have for you now, I'll get back to you with more juicy, sexy details. Don't be shy, post your questions in the comment section. I will get back to you..
Safe sex always!
xoxo,
S.M
Friday, November 7, 2008
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Safe sex always!
Kudos to Aafin!
ur like, agony aunt hahaha.
SAFE SEX IS SEXY!
hurm~
hurm~~~
hahahahahaha
yes! you are right. some people still think that it is a taboo subject to discuss. might learn a thing or two than not knowing at all.
#bella
yes, safe sex always, say it with me...haha
#aimi
haha..i found my true calling! yeah!
#ismal
hurmm hurmm je? it's my first attempt at a post like this..so deal with! more to come!
#scenenseen
yes, the key is to talk about it...
only then can ppl learn.
but how if the hymen is not there?
haha. i mean literally. tak tau ade ke tak, should ade, but the first time having sex, tapi no blood. how? (maybe sebab bf dia tiny? haha) and, finger-ing. tak koyak meh the hymen? kadang2 tak paham, some girls kasi finger but tak blay fuck sebab takut loose her virginity?
It's not that the hymen is NOT THERE...its just that some girls just don't bleed because the hymen is thinner than usual...some girls don't even feel pain the first time having sex. it's totally normal.
this is why i don't associate bleeding with "losing your virginity."
About the fingering -- it doesn't matter wht you do, finger or penis, if it penetrates the vagina, then you're having penetrative sex..you can draw your own conclusions. but whtever you decide to put IN the vagina, it doesnt matter because "sex" doesn't literary mean penis+vagina.
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